A child who has been the baby of the family, or an only child especially, will need this bit of support, since they have always been the center of attention and now they will not be.The party doesn’t have to be elaborate. A few balloons, some cupcakes (let the kids decorate their own), coloring books and crayons, perhaps some baby shower favors, and a couple fun age-appropriate party games – pin the diaper on the baby, musical chairs, pass the diaper (like hot potato), etc. The idea is to make a fuss and show the older sibling it’s going to be fun to be a big brother or big sister, and even though things are going to change in the house they are still important.
You can purchase two similar stuffed animals – one larger than the other to represent the older and younger child. You can even dress the animals in identical clothing, but just different sizes and add matching blankets.
You will also want to get at least one “big sister” or “big brother” T-shirt (a great find for big brother/big sister items is Wear Me Out Kids) . Give them a baby photo album that they can have for their very own – to be filled with pictures of them when the baby first comes home, and holding the younger one, or playing with him or her. This is something they will cherish for a lifetime, and help them bond with the baby.
At the party you can tell a story about bringing a new baby home, or being a big brother or sister. Other parents can also join in with their stories. You can ask each child to bring a stuffed animal from home, or have a bunch of them lying around to use, along with some newborn size disposable diapers. Each child at the party can then learn how to put on a baby diaper or pretend to feed a baby (animal) or push them in a stroller.
Life is never going to be the same after the new baby arrives, but the older child will assimilate easier if he or she are included in the fun and anticipation. They’re never going to be the youngest again, but being the older sibling can have its advantages too.
